My 4 ½ year old, the Sunshine Bean, is this week’s student
of the week in her preschool class. This, of course, is very exciting. It
involved a homework assignment which we completed together. She had to answer
questions about things like her favorite color – red – and favorite subject –
math. One of the questions was, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” and
Sunshine answered without hesitation.
“Just a mommy, like you.”
Just a mommy.
I’m sure I should have rushed to tell her that she can be
anything she wants to be. And she can. My middle child is blessed – and blesses
us – with a sweetness and generosity of heart that amaze me daily. She is a
true nurturer. She also loves mathJ
I can see her growing up to be a teacher, an engineer, or somehow be involved
in healthcare. But I have to admit that her response made me smile – inside and
out – and made me proud. Proud of both of us.
See I am “just a mommy.” But not in the sense that being
just a mommy is somehow less than being a mommy who is also something else.
Rather, for me being “just a mommy” is exactly and fully what I want to be. I
take pride in my role as a full-time mom to my three little beans. I love being
here to take care of them and hear their little stories and make their lunches
and clean up after them all day every day. Sure there are times when I hide in
the pantry and sneak cookies out of the bag just to get two minutes of peace.
But the truth is that I love being “just a mommy.” There is a contentment I
feel in this role that nothing else ever gave me and I don’t believe anything
else ever could. I am proud of the people my kids are growing up to be and I am
proud of me.
Today I learned that Sunshine is proud of me, too. For when
she said that she wants to be “just a mommy,” what was in her face and voice was that
being a mommy was a happy, proud, valuable thing to be. So yes, she will
continue to learn and grow and find out all of the many, many things that she
can be when she grows up. But she will also grow up knowing that being “just a
mommy,” can provide fulfillment and joy. That if she chooses it one day, it is a title she can wear with
pride.
I do.
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ReplyDeleteBeautiful! Lately I've not been feeling satisfied being "just a mommy." But I love that you are. And I love that our sunshines can say something that will remind us of the beauty and importance of our privilege. Thanks for the reminder that even though there are times of boredom, being "just a mommy" is something to be so, so proud of and really something where it's necessary to go "all in". - katie
ReplyDeleteThanks, Katie!! I can certainly relate to periods of boredom, but yes overall I can't think of anything that would make me happier or more fulfilled. I think for me the outlet of writing helps tap into part of my brain that doesn't always get tapped into in mommy-mode. Although I find as my kids get older, I have to keep more on my toes and try to stay sharp - it'd be a shame if they were smarter than me before anyone hits third grade :)
DeleteI love this!!! Cheers to being, "Just a Mommy!"
ReplyDelete-Kelly Wodzinski
Thanks so much, Kelly! For me, you are an example of someone who brings a great deal of joy to being "just a mommy!"
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